conflicted feelings

Interest vs. Like vs. Attraction vs. Love

As a girl, I probably shouldn’t be mapping all these feelings out.  Most girls get a crush, and just go with it.  They spot a guy, lock their feelings in on him, and decide that they like him.  This is even all before they’ve talked to him.  I can’t say I’ve never done this, because I have.  We all have that 7th grade girl inside of us somewhere.  I can’t afford to do that though.

Why? Because none of this protects our heart.  The heart is one of the most important organs.   The heart pumps the blood, which carries all the vital materials which help our bodies function and removes the waste products that we do not need.  If the heart ever ceases to pump blood, the body will begin to shut down and after a very short period of time will die.  So besides the fact that your heart is keeping you alive, it also is very fragile emotionally.  We should be focusing all of our heart desires on God, because he is the ONLY thing that will not disapoint.  If you place all hope, joy, love, excitedness, etc. on a guy- your heart is going break.  Placing your heart in anyone’s hands besides God will indefinitely harm it.

So.  This brings me to the mapping out part.  Instead of just automatically “falling in love (or like)” with any man you see, you should step back and take a look at those feelings, and at that man’s heart.

I’m a big fan of the dictionary, it gives concrete meaning to words.  Then we take and shape them how we percieve them.   So to start out:

Interest: something that concerns, involves, draws the attention of, or arouses the curiosity of a person
Attraction: magnetic charm; fascination; allurement; enticement: the subtle attraction of her strange personality.
Like: a favourable feeling, desire, preference

I know everyone always says the word love is thrown around, which it is, but I don’t think we realize how much the word like is thrown around as well.  We girls tend to automatically say “I think I like him.”  And it can only be after meeting him once!  Or not meeting him at all.  I’ve seen this happen many times.  We hear good rumors and think to ourselves “I think I could like him.”  Why is this?  Because we are INTERESTED in him.  Interest is a whole new ball game.  I think interest is the thing that comes first.  A certain guy will snag our interest.  Instead of saying “I like him” we should say “I might be interested in him.”  I feel this protects our hearts.   Automatically saying you like someone is way to emotionally involved.  I think attraction comes next.  Not only in the physical sense, but the mental sense as well.  Of course if you are interested or attracted to someone, you are going to find their appearance to your liking.  I kept the example sentence from dictionary.com, “the subtle attraction of her strange personality.”  This proves that not only the outside is attractive, but the inside as well.  After these two steps, THEN comes like.

Okay, this video is really cheesy, but I like it.  They’re both cautious with their hearts.

I like you

And now for the big one…

love

[luhv] noun, verb, loved, lov·ing.

noun

1.  a profoundly tender, passionate affection for another person.
2.  a feeling of warm personal attachment or deep affection, as for a parent, child, or friend.
3.  sexual passion or desire.
4.  a person toward whom love is felt; beloved person; sweetheart.
5.  (used in direct address as a term of endearment, affection, or the like): Would you like to see a movie, love?
I kept all of the definitions on love because they were just so good.  It doesn’t just assume the normal love definition, but it shows friendship, affection, desire, a feeling of belonging and endearment.  Love isn’t just love.  It’s everything.  It’s a noun AND verb.  You love and are loved in return.    I mean, the Bible even says that love is the greatest.

Three things will last forever—faith, hope, and love—and the greatest of these is love.  1 Corinthians 13:13

God made almost everyone for someone else.   Most of us are meant to find love, we just have to remember that it will bein God’s time and on his plan.

Genesis 2:18-24 Then the LORD God said, “It is not  good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him.”  Now out of the ground the LORD God had formed every beast of the field and  every bird of the heavens and brought them to the man to see what he would call  them. And whatever the man called every living creature, that was its name. The  man gave names to all livestock and to the birds of the heavens and to every  beast of the field. But for Adam there was not found a helper fit for him. So  the LORD God caused a deep sleep to fall upon the man, and while he slept took  one of his ribs and closed up its place with flesh. And the rib that the LORD  God had taken from the man he made into a woman and brought her to the man. Then  the man said,   ”This at last isbone of my bones and flesh  of my flesh; she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out  of Man.” Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast  to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.

See? We were made for each other.  We just have to keep in mind that in any human relationship, it should be a triangle.  With God at the point, and the woman and man looking directly at him.

So, we must work to not fall in love with every person we see, and protect our hearts a little.

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