For the past two days, I have been laying down shelf paper in every cabinet and drawer in my parents new house. It’s not a hard job, just a little tedious. But through this time, I got to thinking. Relationships are alot like shelf paper. Before you start thinking that I’m crazy-just hear me out.
When laying down shelf paper, you have to wipe out the old first. You have to get a wet rag and clean out all the crumbs and dust from the past owners. Then you can lay down the new shelf paper and nail it down. I feel like this is a parallel to any relationship, friendly or more than that.
When starting any relationship with a new person, you have to get to know them. You have to acknowledge all the crumbs and dust of their past, maybe not knowing specifically what they are, but not caring because we should extend grace to others as Christ has to us. Knowing this, we then wipe away all those insecurities and put the past in the trash. You lay down the new shelf paper of your relationship, and nail it in. Now you have a clean base to start out on. The relationship will flourish with a strong base to grow on. Like it says in Luke 6:48-
“It is like a person building a house who digs deep and lays the foundation on solid rock. When the floodwaters rise and break against that house, it stands firm because it is well built.”
As humans, we tend to have this distorted view of perfection. We forget that everyone else has a past, just like us. We also tend to forget, that all sin is the same. Myself included. It’s hard not to judge the “bigness” of sin, but that’s not our job. ALL sin hurts God. No matter how big or small. But does He sit in Heaven and judge us on it? That would be a big NO. He still opens his arms wide and accepts us with a smile.
Keep this in mind for your present relationships as well. Everyone needs to start out with a strong base. If you didn’t, go back and work on that base of the relationship. That trust and grace. Everyone needs grace. In my opinion at least.